Indifference

I found some new definitions today:

- Giving space: Leave the thing/person/situation alone without paying any attention to it. It/he/she will take care of itself/himself/herself.

- Treating someone like an adult: Assume that he/she will take care of things and does not need any support. Adults are like machines who are self sufficient and can always take care of themselves without any "hand-holding". They are not expected to be unreasonable and have to be forthcoming and extremely cooperative and truthful and straightforward. I am sure I have missed out on a hundred more buzz-words here- but bear with me for the time being- I am not yet "an adult"!

- Being independent: Not expecting any support from anyone. In short- be an "adult".

After being enlightened by the above definitions, I beg to differ. That giving space does not mean leaving people alone but rather to avoid overwhelming them with your ideas and opinions and give them the freedom to form their own. That being an adult does not mean being a self-sufficient intelligent machine. That being independent in no way means being indifferent and expect people to be indifferent to you.

And people who cannot handle this supposedly unresonable whim in me, can suit themselves. It is pointless to expect a space-giving independent adult to be by my side and support me!