Dancing in the rain

What is it that makes a relationship stay, or blow away, or worse, wither away. It is a simple thing- but like all other simple things, it is a little difficult to understand, more so to accept and apply. But I have seen it work flawlessly in all those relationships around me which have and will survive through and through everything.

It is called Come What May- and it is not a magic potion or a divine chant- it is an attitude. It says that come what may- I will be with you- that I know that we are to be together- that I do not see being with you as a choice to anything but as my very existence. Sounds like stuff out of an old romantic classic? If you let your attention stray from the romanticism in the words and think about the solemnity in them, maybe it will make more sense.

Obviously, this attitude does not come suddenly- especially not when two people first get into a relationship. It develops over time as both of them start realizing that they are meant to be and that they can be together always. It develops when both of them start understanding that never can both of them be angry or upset at the same time- if one is angry- the other one has to make sure things are normal again. It develops when both of them start acknowledging that never can both of them be in doubt at the same time- if one starts feeling disillusioned- the other has to revive the faith and the spark. The phrase "You complete me" sounds very cliched- but only when it is said and perceived in terms of completing each others' permanent deficiencies. We all go on to lack what we might have had sometime back- enthusiasm, courage, hope and many other things. Completing each other means replenishing these things in each other when need be.

No relationship is free from its low moments- these keep it alive. In such times, the key is to remember all the highs you've had, smile to yourself and say- "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass- it's about dancing in the rain"